Perfectionism: What's Bad About Being Too Good

Perfectionism is a problem for many teenagers today. Here’s help for Superkids, workaholics, type A’s, straight A’s, procrastinators, overachievers—and caring adults.

This thought-provoking, encouraging book explains the differences between healthy ambition and unhealthy perfectionism and gives strategies for getting out of the perfectionism trap—from recognizing the symptoms to rewarding yourself for who you are, not what you do.

It explains why some people become perfectionists, what perfectionism does to the mind and body, why girls are especially prone to perfectionism, and more. It also gives adults insight into how their behavior and expectations can contribute to perfectionism in teens they parent and teach.

The revised and updated edition of a Free Spirit classic includes new research and statistics on the causes and consequences of perfectionism, biographical sketches of famous perfectionists and risk takers, and resources for readers who want to know more.

Alan Review

There's nothing wrong with wanting to succeed, but that desire can sometimes turn into an unhealthy obsession. This book examines how teens can fall easily into the trap of perfectionism. The authors address several issues: how and why people become perfectionists; how perfectionism can adversely affect one's mental and physical health; and how perfectionism can harm relationships with peers, parents and siblings. There is also a lot of sound, practical advice to help perfectionist teens. The authors offer good tips like how to set reasonable standards for oneself, how to enjoy success, and how to praise oneself and accept it from others. Written in straightforward, jargon-free prose and in a conversational, engaging tone, the authors are obviously cognizant of their audience. The layout of their book is attractive, with lists, sidebars, and occasional black-and-white illustrations serving as a good complement to the lively text. Following each chapter, the authors recommend books and web sites for readers interested in further researching the subject. Perfectionism is a thorough, useful self-help book for teens. Genre: Nonfiction/Self-Help. 1999, Free Spirit Press, Ages 12 up, $12.95. Reviewer: Ed Sullivan